Most of us want to achieve great things in our life. We set out goals and try to achieve them in a given time. However, when it comes to actually seeing the results of it, they are nowhere to be found. Why is it that some of us fall short with their plans, struggle along the way and hardly ever reach their targeted goals? The main cause of your dilemmas is your brain, which plays tricks with you, and in fact, blocks you from being productive and successful. It builds self-constructed roadblocks such as negative thoughts that limit our chances to reach the desired goal. I am encouraging you to look closely at the barriers, that your brain sets out on your road to success, and chose positive vibrations that will push you forward.
Laboratory of Neuro-Imaging recently presented studies, which show that an average person expresses about 70 thousand thoughts a day. 80% of those thoughts are negative notions that badly influence our thought process, motivation and ability to reach goals. Thoughts play a key role in our life, thus they can inspire us, fill us with positive energy, but also discourage us to pursue with our goals. Therefore, we have to learn how to control our thought process in order to improve our life and self-development.
Negative thoughts are affiliated with bad habits, which in fact can be controlled. However, if you want to control them, you have to identify those already automated thoughts and recognize a pattern of events in during which they occur.
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5 mind tricks that stop you from achieving goals
1. Negative idioms
We often have problems with addressing our goals properly. We begin our journey with a goal planning by implementing words affiliated with urgency or necessity of doing something, such as “must”, “have to” or “need to”. At some point, it reminds us of the importance of our goal, but also creates a feeling of unwanted necessity, followed by a possible punishment. Some other times, some of us use models of negative motivation, for example, “I have to lose weight because I look terrible”, which layout pessimistic attitude at the very start. Remember to not fall for it, during your first stage of setting out your goal. Try to replace those words with positive ones such as “can”, “want to” and so on. They will motivate you to be more proactive and assure that completion of your goal is more than possible.
“If only my husband was a different man, I would have been happier.” “If only the stock market was more stable I would have made more money”. The list of excuses can be endless depending on how hard we try to find some. This is one of the most common tricks used by our brain. It always stops us, with hundreds of excuses, before we even begin planning on how to achieve the desired goal.
By finding excuses on to the road to your goal achievement, you simply shift the responsibility for your success on other people as well as exterior factors. We lose control over our lives and we become dependent on others in planning our future success. Rather than focusing on excuses try to face the reality and gain control over the success of reaching your dream. It will also help you define what can be controlled by you and what is entirely dependent on exterior factors.
3. I won’t make it… Failure
Why would I even start a new project if it is already set out for a failure? Why batter meeting that new girl since she won’t even look at me? Those are just a few of the thoughts that go through our mind before we even think of how to achieve our goal. It is a typical mindset that by predicting the worst, protects us from failure. It is a self-sabotage, which destroys our self-esteem. Our brain is a victim of itself. Studies show that focusing on negative emotions and events badly influence our wellbeing. Believe in yourself and your inner strength, and you will become a much healthier individual.
4. Setting your sights too high
Setting out goals too high is the biggest mistake of those who want to have everything accomplish on time and have it done perfectly. Perfectionists achieve their goals, sometimes even before the deadline, nevertheless they have the tendency to go back and go over the results again, thinking that they will never be good enough. According to them, even the smallest mistake is a complete failure. They don’t comprehend well with failure or even with being good enough. They have to be perfect all the time and in every aspect of their life. Don’t look at your falls as if it was the end of the world. Fall, pick yourself up and learn from your failure. Use it as a valuable lesson rather than your defeat.
5. Addicted to other’s opinion
You have a desire to open up your own business or you want to go on a diet, but you are afraid that others will disapprove it or laugh at you? The main problem is within you because you care too much of what others will think about your ideas. You look for their acceptance to boost your self-esteem and assure your own decision as correct. It is easier to follow the path that was once walked by other people in oppose to creating our own. You fall into routine, scheme of others and you lose your identity. Be less self-critical. Give yourself space to be creative and unique regardless of what others say about you.
Your negative thoughts have a bad influence on your emotions and perception of yourself. Rembert that you are your own boss, team player, motivator and a worker. It is entirely up to you what the outcome of your success is going to be. Knowing that, remember to free yourself from the negative influence of your thoughts and emotions. Think positively, utilize your thoughts to motivate you and to achieve your goals. Your thoughts are powerful so use them to increase your productivity and success.